Emotional Challenges Surrogates and Intended Parents Face & How to Navigate Them

Gestational surrogacy is a deeply emotional journey for both surrogates and intended parents. Navigating the emotional aspects of this experience is crucial to ensure it is as positive and fulfilling as possible. Let’s explore some of the key emotional challenges and strategies for managing them, with the support of Nascency.

Emotional Challenges for Surrogates

Emotional Attachment

As a surrogate, you might develop an emotional bond with the baby you’re carrying, even though you know the child isn’t yours. This attachment can bring up complex feelings during and after the pregnancy.

Postpartum Emotions

After delivery, you may experience:

• Feelings of sadness or “postpartum blues” due to hormonal changes.
• A sense of loss or grief after parting with the baby.
• Relief, as the responsibility of raising the child transitions to the intended parents.

Anxiety and Stress

It’s common for surrogates to feel anxious about:

• The pregnancy and delivery process.
• The well-being of the baby.
• How surrogacy might affect your own family.

Emotional Challenges for Intended Parents

Anxiety and Uncertainty

As an intended parent, you might experience:

• Concerns about your surrogate’s health and the baby’s well-being.
• Anxiety about legal matters and potential complications.
• Uncertainty about your role during the pregnancy.

Managing Expectations

The surrogacy process can sometimes differ from your initial expectations, which can lead to disappointment or stress.

Navigating Emotional Challenges

Open Communication

Clear and honest communication between you, your surrogate, and the professionals at Nascency is key to managing expectations and avoiding misunderstandings.

Emotional Support Systems

Both you and your surrogate will benefit from:

• Professional counseling or therapy.
• Joining support groups with others who are on a similar journey.
• Leaning on family and friends for emotional support.

Education and Preparation

By educating yourself about the surrogacy process—both the medical and emotional aspects—you can reduce anxiety and feel more prepared for the experience.

Self-Care Practices

Prioritizing self-care can help manage stress. This includes:

• Yoga, meditation, or mindfulness exercises.
• Regular exercise and getting enough sleep.
• Engaging in hobbies and relaxation activities.

Celebrating Milestones

Taking time to celebrate important moments along the way helps to maintain a positive outlook throughout the journey.